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[Madam H]

if one really wants to ensure the best for one's children?

Yes / No?  Why?

[CANDY©]

If you marry a very rich man like David Beckam... then probably you can just stay at home and take care of your children and have a fashionable fabulous life.

But in reality nowadays, women can work and at the same time be a good mom and a wife. That's why women i can say is really stronger than men in so many ways.

Agree ba, Madam H?

[mhalou]

we should always consider a lot of things... like the kids, if they are still young, the mother should stay at home to take care of them. but if the husband really can't support the family alone, then the wife should help him. but of course, they should talk first and settle things properly to avoid conflict.

i am after the welfare of kids... mothers should always think about their children before anything else. that is why it's a must that women don't settle down unless they are physically, emotionally, and psychologically ready for responsiblities. God bless!

[defect]

i dont believe in stay-at-home moms. girsl ur parents throw a ot of money to earn a degree you should u it. all u need is to balance your career and taking care of the kids and especially the husband. on a mels poin of view i personally dont contest on the idea of women working.

no offense to the ladies here, (this migth be out of topic) there are woman who works and earns more than thier husband and thinks that they wear the pants now.

[Madam H]

If you marry a very rich man like David Beckam... then probably you can just stay at home and take care of your children and have a fashionable fabulous life.

But in reality nowadays, women can work and at the same time be a good mom and a wife. That's why women i can say is really stronger than men in so many ways.

Agree ba, Madam H?

I agree with the part about having a fashionable fabulous life if one did marry a David Beckham...pero hanggang hair lang ang pareho kami ni Posh Spice! LOL

I do believe that a woman who works miss out on some things she ought to do and be, most especially if she has children. I've met and are friends with women who are stay-at-homes, and seriously, I envy them. But that's also not to say that I don't like having  a career.

As always, the key word is balance. Sorry Candes, but I have to disagree on the "women are stronger than men" part. I believe we each have our roles to play, and that's exactly how man and woman have been made. My husband is stronger than me in so many ways that I can't explain here (the years of being guided and supported and taught by him won't fit in this thread)! I guess you would have to be married and have lived with a husband (around two kids as well) like him to really understand what I mean here. Of course it's not perfect... as ALL marriages are.

Seriously, the guidance, direction and sense of having a purpose in life, in my own experience, I got from my husband. He is the one force that directs our life, even in my own personal career. Quite frankly, I wouldn't be where I am in terms of career and sense, if not for his patience, wisdom and love!

Corny no?... but it's true!

[maldita]

I dont wanna be a stay at home mom.I am  a career women .I think i can manage to be a career women at the same time a good wife.I still have time for my husband.

Wl pa ako anak  eh so wl pa ako masyadong mai cocomment about taking care of children.

[Madam H]

I dont wanna be a stay at home mom.I am  a career women .I think i can manage to be a career women at the same time a good wife.I still have time for my husband.

Wl pa ako anak  eh so wl pa ako masyadong mai cocomment about taking care of children.

 
Maldita, i-enjoy to the max while wala pang kids. Kasi pagdating nila, not that easy anymore (going out, partying, etc). LOL

Sabi nung isang friend ko na andito before sa Thailand, sabi ko lang daw yan na I would prefer to be at home, kasi siya daw ganun din ang sentiments nung may work siya and then nagbuntis. Pero nung wala na daw siya work, na-bore na siya! LOL

Well, if you believe staying home is not for you, I think other women who think otherwise should respect that. I just want to share what I see from the moms (and kids) who I have close encounters with because of my job. They're the Korean and the Japanese moms of my students. Their kids seem so well directed, secure and their moms are always on top of things, always present during school activities, and most of all, the kids seem so unworldly and disciplined. 'Can't really tell if it's the result of their culture itself, because hindi ko nakikita ang the same results sa mga Thai students ko.

I am very interested to actually solicit opinions and observations from others through this forum, coz since society is changing so much nowadays, and our kids get affected by everything else around them, significant sa akin yung seemingly innocent aura of those students na very hands-on and "always" there ang nanay. Hindi naman sila yung dependent or overly protected kind. In fact, they are allowed a lot of room to explore, but they seem untouched by the materialism and the "worldliness" of the Thai kids. And I do wonder if it is because their moms are always there.

Oipnions, observations, ideas, anyone?

[sinner217]

each one of us has our own priorities.  would you rather stay at home and see that you and your husband cannot provide well for your children OR get a family-friendly career and help your husband support them.  either of the 2, there are always pros and cons.  one needs to weigh choices depending on what the situation calls for. and besides, parents consists of mother and a father.

pede rin naman na full-blast ang career till you have children then back seat na pag dumating si baby but it doesn't mean na you have to quit your job.  un nga lang, we can't always have the best of both worlds.

@madam h, i presume cultural differences plays a big part on how thai children are. economic status, different orientations of parents, values, friends, etc. dictates their outlook on these things too.  but i believe if parents start teaching their children the things that really matters in life at an early age, they would keep these values until they reach the time that they have to go out of the world by themselves. pero shempre no one is perfect and each couple has their sets of values that they want their children to learn.

ang seryoso ata! hehehe. just my two cents.

[Darfur]

madam H... isa sa mga dahilan kung bkit ayaw ko magabroad misis ko kc mas maganda talga pag laging hands-on ang nanay. malaking bagay ung habang bata pa well guided na.

[Madam H]

Sinner and Darfur,

       Salamat for sharing your thoughts here. Sana naman, yung ibang nanay out there, whether they are working moms or full-time housewives, hopefully, they would find the time to share din sa thread na 'to so others na wala pang anak o wala pang asawa could already start thinking about their own choices later on...

[Darfur]

My husband is stronger than me in so many ways that I can't explain here (the years of being guided and supported and taught by him won't fit in this thread)! I guess you would have to be married and have lived with a husband (around two kids as well) like him to really understand what I mean here. Of course it's not perfect... as ALL marriages are.

as i see it. mabait c master J at maganda c Madam H. bagay n bagay d ba. tnx s pagkupkop s amin last week end. nagenjoy po kami ng husto. sarap ng pagkaing pinoy talga. grabe sobrang namiss ko. next time dala me ng black label po.sorry off topic

[Woz]

My husband is stronger than me in so many ways that I can't explain here (the years of being guided and supported and taught by him won't fit in this thread)! I guess you would have to be married and have lived with a husband (around two kids as well) like him to really understand what I mean here. Of course it's not perfect... as ALL marriages are.

as i see it. mabait c master J at maganda c Madam H. bagay n bagay d ba. tnx s pagkupkop s amin last week end. nagenjoy po kami ng husto. sarap ng pagkaing pinoy talga. grabe sobrang namiss ko. next time dala me ng black label po.sorry off topic

eto din sa akin..

isang black label
isang 100 pipers
at
isang master blend

[Madam H]

  Kumag and Darfur,

 Naku! Mukhang mapapaaga ang third meet up niyan, a!

 'Looking forward to the next time!

 Yan, pwede na sigurong bumalik sa topic! LOL

 Tsaka Darfur, kami ang dapat magpasalamat for the things and time you have shared
 with the rest of the SP family. Sana, huwag kayong magsawa sa pagtangkilik sa sariling
 atin.

[Angel]

I don't know if I am qualify to share my opinion as I am not a mom myself but base from my experience, stay at home or a career mom has no difference as long as the child received the care, love and guidance he/she needed when they needed it most. Laki kasi ako sa lola ko, both my parents are working in Manila while me and my sisters are in the province, every weekend lang namin sila nakikita noon but I know they care for all of us to really sacrifice the distance between us. Nde ko masisisi ang mga mother na magtrabaho, sa hirap ng buhay ngayon kailangan 2 talaga kayo na nagtataguyod ng pamilya. Kailangan lang talaga eh time management and open communication. Nde mo naman kasi mahahawakan na ang buhay ng mga anak mo once there turn old enough, lalo lang sila magrerebelde kung masyado kang istrikto. Dapat bumaba ka sa level nila ,treat them as adult friends not as child mas gusto nila yun and always be a listening parents..

ooppss na carried away yata ako..dapat yata sa parenting 101 ito hehehe

yan lang po masasabi ko 

[anton-2008]

I think it's better for the women nowadays to have their own career. There are many benefits for that. They can help their husband to save money for their future in the Philippines. Of course I know there are also many disadvantages for that but, we need to move on. If the women just wait for their husband to do everything for the family then, they will just both get older without savings for their kids.

[Madam H]

I don't know if I am qualify to share my opinion as I am not a mom myself but base from my experience, stay at home or a career mom has no difference as long as the child received the care, love and guidance he/she needed when they needed it most. Laki kasi ako sa lola ko, both my parents are working in Manila while me and my sisters are in the province, every weekend lang namin sila nakikita noon but I know they care for all of us to really sacrifice the distance between us. Nde ko masisisi ang mga mother na magtrabaho, sa hirap ng buhay ngayon kailangan 2 talaga kayo na nagtataguyod ng pamilya. Kailangan lang talaga eh time management and open communication. Nde mo naman kasi mahahawakan na ang buhay ng mga anak mo once there turn old enough, lalo lang sila magrerebelde kung masyado kang istrikto. Dapat bumaba ka sa level nila ,treat them as adult friends not as child mas gusto nila yun and always be a listening parents..

ooppss na carried away yata ako..dapat yata sa parenting 101 ito hehehe

yan lang po masasabi ko 

That's great, Angel! Kahit hindi ka pa nanay, you already have in mind as to what may be the best way to treat and raise kids, based on your own childhood experience. Thanks so much for sharing!

[Madam H]

I think it's better for the women nowadays to have their own career. There are many benefits for that. They can help their husband to save money for their future in the Philippines. Of course I know there are also many disadvantages for that but, we need to move on. If the women just wait for their husband to do everything for the family then, they will just both get older without savings for their kids.

Society is indeed changing... it's great that women now have more choices... it's just a matter, i guess, of choosing what is best for one's family/situation. Thanks for your thoughts, Anton!

[10/40]

Kanya-kanyang linya lang.  No one can say one is better than the other.  The only thing that matters is the possible product she is making for the family.  But, you see, women needs to speak 2,500 words a day; where in the world she will find that much vocabulary if she doesn't go out. peace!!!  Men, just let them talk to finish early.

[Angel]

@Madam H..walang anuman..enjoy naman ako magpost dito sa SP eh  ...dami ko rin natutunan

[♥ AnnaV ♥]

OK dahil full attention para sa kids..nababantayan at naaalagaan mabuti, nakakasiguro ka na walang yayang nananakit sa anak mo o nagtuturo ng kung anu-ano...responsibilidad lahat ng moms

yun nga lang minsan nakaka-bored na sa bahay