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[maldita]

You are the first man in your daughter's life. She gets her idea of relationships first from you.

Honestly how father's can raise his daughter and become an extraordinary woman and not  a "Daddy's Little Girl" forever???

[melbu]

hhmm...chalenging question for men.
maam, i think it's hard for them to keep things in perspective.  (patay ako nito!) They have to implement subtle shifts that will make a huge difference in their daughter's life. mga ano ano kaya?

[Master J]

Siguro ang mabuting tanong dito is, how did your respective dad's raise you Ms Maldita and Ms melbu to become who you are today?

I am sure hindi naman kayo mga daddy's little girls anymore.

We will surely learn some wisdom from it kasi naexperience na ng mga tatay niyo ang pagpapalaki sa inyo

[maldita]

mukha nga.let's wait comments from the father out there...

[Master J]

mukha nga.let's wait comments from the father out there...

Well, just to share something with guys. I believe FIRMNESS of a father will help a daughter in many ways. It will help facilitate confidence and self belief which for sure will lead to independence. And let's not forget to be friends/barkadas with them.

[maldita]

I agree wit hyou master J and even di ako daddy (hehehehe).

Basically, its good to raise a daughter who can take risks, negotiate for what she wants, learn from her mistakes, and solve her own problems without being rescued by you or any other man is the order of the day.  This is what makes her a strong, happy woman rather than a little girl forever.

[Darfur]

good question. for that i am giving you positive karma. the truth is eto ang pinakamahirap n parte ng pagiging daddy ko. i made a mistake. naging daddy's girl ang bunso ko. i have two kids. boy and girl. bata p nmn sya 6 years old. the problem is masyado ko siyang naspoiled. cant blame me because i traded my soul to...(lets not mention the name baka maalala bargain ko e) para lang mabuhay sya. s sobrang pagmamahal ko e lahat ng gusto pinagbigyan ko and ang result ay matigas ang ulo.now i am trying to undo it. mahirap. being a father ( i mean the true sense of it) is really difficult. it is still a puzzle for me.

[maldita]

@Darfur its okay atleast true man ka dahil alam mu at aminado ka na may mali ka sa pag i spoiled mu sa anak mu.Bata pa naman sya eh so pwede mu pang i correct pero wag biglaan baka ma mis interpret ng bata.Open communication is best way to start with.

[Master J]

I agree wit hyou master J and even di ako daddy (hehehehe).

Basically, its good to raise a daughter who can take risks, negotiate for what she wants, learn from her mistakes, and solve her own problems without being rescued by you or any other man is the order of the day.  This is what makes her a strong, happy woman rather than a little girl forever.

Parenting is a 24/7 business. Mahirap pag mahaba ang downtime, parang SP ba

I think at the end of the day babalik pa rin ang anak mo sa iyo lalo na pag busog siya sa pagmamahal at pag unawa.

My belief tells me it would be unfair for her to be programmed na maging totally independent from others (if this is what you mean by not being rescued by anybody). No man is an island right?

Kung ganito, I see na magiging magulo lang ang pamilya niya balang araw. Not unless na weakling at sunod sunoran lang ang magiging husband niya. I maybe wrong about this.

And besides, I just wonder how would we tell our kids not to seek assistance from us during difficult times? And what is the condition for them to start excercising this and at what age? Wouldn't we be sending a wrong message sa kanila?

Imagine sabihin mo na anak, pag umabot ka na sa edad na 10 at may problema ka don't count on me to rescue you ha. Ngayon palang you have to start thinking na about this. Wouldn't it confuse her?

Pero gaya nga ng sinabi ko kung magkabarkada lang kayo eh, sino pa nga ba siya tatakbo kung may problema siya? Maliban na lang siguro kung ang tatay/lalaki ay nagpakita ng masama sa anak niya lalaki/babae habang lumalaki ito, dito manggagaling ang resentment niya sa opposite sex.

Reading about Oedepal at Elektra complex might help you with this topic boys and girls. Pero iba pa rin ang actual na pangyayari. Mayber Pareng Mat can add something sa topic na ito. Just my two cents

[Master J]

By the way, just recently sa tv I saw kids around 6-7 years old manifesting the hate's and likes of the mothers.

If you are constantly comlaining daw about something, nafefeed ito sa mga utak nila.

The kids we're shown pictures of fat women and some other things (right in front of their mothers) and asked how they feel and what they think about it?

Some mothers cried because that was the first time they were aware na ang mga negativities nila ay naaadapt pala ng mga anak nila without their knowing.

My point here  is, di lang sa lalake nakasalalay ang responsibilidad na ito.

Pero maibalik ko nga sa inyo uli Ms Maldita at Ms Melbu. Paano ba ang pagpalaki ng mga dad's niyo sa inyo to become who you are at present?

This for sure will help us kasi with our kids hindi pa sila as conscious about this. Pero kayo, you're mature enough to know the effect ng pagpalaki sa inyo ng mga dads ninyo. Can you enlighten us please. I am sure maraming nagbabasa nito waiting for everyones sides. Kayo din na mga nagbabasa walang tama o mali po dito kaya post na

[maldita]

"solve her own problems without being rescued by you or any other man is the order of the day"

What i meant here is let her think how to solve her problems at the same time parents can talk to their daughter and explain what's the problem about and you can ask her how she will handle it.If you think her idea is not good you may give some suggestion and explain to her why.In this way your daughter will be enlighten and she know that you're at her side at the same time you're letting her to think and analyze.

[Darfur]

@Darfur its okay atleast true man ka dahil alam mu at aminado ka na may mali ka sa pag i spoiled mu sa anak mu.Bata pa naman sya eh so pwede mu pang i correct pero wag biglaan baka ma mis interpret ng bata.Open communication is best way to start with.

thanks maldita. pero ahhhhhh hirap maging ama.

[Master J]

"solve her own problems without being rescued by you or any other man is the order of the day"

What i meant here is let her think how to solve her problems at the same time parents can talk to their daughter and explain what's the problem about and you can ask her how she will handle it.If you think her idea is not good you may give some suggestion and explain to her why.In this way your daughter will be enlighten and she know that you're at her side at the same time you're letting her to think and analyze.

Ah yes Ms Maldita we are on the same boat on this one

Based on experience mas double ang challenge once nasa IS ang anak mo. Dahil sa western na western ang influence. Yung bunso tinawag ni mama kanina lang habang kumakain. Sagot ba naman "Wait mama I eat". 2 years 4 months palang ganito na sumagot. Wahahahah

[Master J]

@Darfur its okay atleast true man ka dahil alam mu at aminado ka na may mali ka sa pag i spoiled mu sa anak mu.Bata pa naman sya eh so pwede mu pang i correct pero wag biglaan baka ma mis interpret ng bata.Open communication is best way to start with.

thanks maldita. pero ahhhhhh hirap maging ama.

Sige Captain D. Maging ina na lang tayo

[maldita]

By the way, just recently sa tv I saw kids around 6-7 years old manifesting the hate's and likes of the mothers.

If you are constantly comlaining daw about something, nafefeed ito sa mga utak nila.

The kids we're shown pictures of fat women and some other things (right in front of their mothers) and asked how they feel and what they think about it?

Some mothers cried because that was the first time they were aware na ang mga negativities nila ay naaadapt pala ng mga anak nila without their knowing.

My point here  is, di lang sa lalake nakasalalay ang responsibilidad na ito.

Pero maibalik ko nga sa inyo uli Ms Maldita at Ms Melbu. Paano ba ang pagpalaki ng mga dad's niyo sa inyo to become who you are at present?

This for sure will help us kasi with our kids hindi pa sila as conscious about this. Pero kayo, you're mature enough to know the effect ng pagpalaki sa inyo ng mga dads ninyo. Can you enlighten us please. I am sure maraming nagbabasa nito waiting for everyones sides. Kayo din na mga nagbabasa walang tama o mali po dito kaya post na

Wow master J mukhang mailalahad ko pa ang talmbuhay ko.
Anyway honestly speaking when my father is still alive (he passed away 4yrs ago) i hate him that much and i never listen to him not even one word and i put a gap between us.He never trusts me not even once.He never believed in me.
Since i was a little girl i live with my grandmother and that gives me the reason to be independent at the age of 6.I made all my decisions in life,kept my emotions,dreaming alone that someday i will be successful w/o the help of my father,solving my own problems(never mentioned any problem i had),taking risks.
When he died i never cried at wlang pagsisi sa loob ko till last day nya bigla na lang akong umiyak at nasabi ko lahat ng hinanakit ko at galit ko.Ngayon naisip ko na mahal din pala ako ng father ko batay sa kwento ng mother ko.Pero kung anu man ang narating ko ngayon eh dahil sa kanya.Dahil sa hamon nya sa akin.

Base sa experience ko sana yung mga magulang eh wag nyong iwanan ang anak nyo sa ibang tao.Kung nag abroad kayo kung kaya nyo din lang isama nyo mga anak dahil kailangan nila ang gabay nyo dahil kayo ang idolo ng mga anak nyo.Bigyan nyo sila ng oras at panahon,help her to build her confidence,trusts and be her best friend.At turuan nyo silang maging responsable sa laht ng action nila.

 

[Darfur]

pheddeeee rhen master J. ano kaya feel maging ina.

[Master J]

By the way, just recently sa tv I saw kids around 6-7 years old manifesting the hate's and likes of the mothers.

If you are constantly comlaining daw about something, nafefeed ito sa mga utak nila.

The kids we're shown pictures of fat women and some other things (right in front of their mothers) and asked how they feel and what they think about it?

Some mothers cried because that was the first time they were aware na ang mga negativities nila ay naaadapt pala ng mga anak nila without their knowing.

My point here  is, di lang sa lalake nakasalalay ang responsibilidad na ito.

Pero maibalik ko nga sa inyo uli Ms Maldita at Ms Melbu. Paano ba ang pagpalaki ng mga dad's niyo sa inyo to become who you are at present?

This for sure will help us kasi with our kids hindi pa sila as conscious about this. Pero kayo, you're mature enough to know the effect ng pagpalaki sa inyo ng mga dads ninyo. Can you enlighten us please. I am sure maraming nagbabasa nito waiting for everyones sides. Kayo din na mga nagbabasa walang tama o mali po dito kaya post na

Wow master J mukhang mailalahad ko pa ang talmbuhay ko.
Anyway honestly speaking when my father is still alive (he passed away 4yrs ago) i hate him that much and i never listen to him not even one word and i put a gap between us.He never trusts me not even once.He never believed in me.
Since i was a little girl i live with my grandmother and that gives me the reason to be independent at the age of 6.I made all my decisions in life,kept my emotions,dreaming alone that someday i will be successful w/o the help of my father,solving my own problems(never mentioned any problem i had),taking risks.
When he died i never cried at wlang pagsisi sa loob ko till last day nya bigla na lang akong umiyak at nasabi ko lahat ng hinanakit ko at galit ko.Ngayon naisip ko na mahal din pala ako ng father ko batay sa kwento ng mother ko.Pero kung anu man ang narating ko ngayon eh dahil sa kanya.Dahil sa hamon nya sa akin.

Base sa experience ko sana yung mga magulang eh wag nyong iwanan ang anak nyo sa ibang tao.Kung nag abroad kayo kung kaya nyo din lang isama nyo mga anak dahil kailangan nila ang gabay nyo dahil kayo ang idolo ng mga anak nyo.Bigyan nyo sila ng oras at panahon,help her to build her confidence,trusts and be her best friend.At turuan nyo silang maging responsable sa laht ng action nila.
 

Hello Ms Maldita.  Sorry to hear about your dad. Pareho tayo wala na rin akong papa. And nakita ko yang too much dependence na sinasabi mo. Ako laki din ako sa mga grandparents (rebelde kasi sa bahay he he he). Kaya, medyo naging independent din ako sa maagang panahon. Buti na lang, although iba ang relihiyon ng lolo at lola ko, nilapit pa rin nila ako sa diyos.

To be honest, kaya ko kayo tinanong kasi nga dahil sa pagmamahal ko sa aking mga anak. If I can gather as much input on how to raise them to become responsible persons someday, I guess that's already half of my role as a parent achieved. I am not perfect but I am really doing my best. As I have said parenting is a 24/7 business.

I am seriously noting what you said here. It's a priceless info for me. Maraming salamat.

[Darfur]

Base sa experience ko sana yung mga magulang eh wag nyong iwanan ang anak nyo sa ibang tao.Kung nag abroad kayo kung kaya nyo din lang isama nyo mga anak dahil kailangan nila ang gabay nyo dahil kayo ang idolo ng mga anak nyo.Bigyan nyo sila ng oras at panahon


waaaaa maldita katatapos ko lng magsign ng bagong contract. huhuhu. uwi n nga ako s october.

[Master J]

pheddeeee rhen master J. ano kaya feel maging ina.

he he he pakabit muna tayo ng matress Captain D.

[Darfur]

master j may kakilala akong plastic surgeon s koh samui. gusto mo ba pakabit ng matress? hahahahha